One of my all time favorite Carl Jung quotes is this:
“The greatest burden a child must bear is the unlived life of its parents.”
When I was contemplating my divorce, the thought of “ruining” my children’s lives plagued me like a ton of bricks that sat on my chest.
What kind of a mother would put herself first knowing that her decision would rock her children?
And you know what the honest answer is to that question? It’s a GOOD fucking mother.
Sure, my decision effected my kids in a whole host of ways but it also effected me (in a host of ways). It was my next step in life. It was what I needed to do to be fully me and to live a fully expressed life. Not just for me but for them too.
How self centered and limited thinking are we to believe that out children can’t handle certain things (or worse yet, didn’t choose this before they were even born). How pompous is my thinking to think that they don’t feel or know what is happening anyway. That they can’t handle it or grow from this. That they, too, wouldn’t benefit from a change.
I live by this … A correct decision for you is the correct decision for those around you.
Because we never truly know. And trying to control only promotes anxiety. What if we all just surrendered to our desires … to the way life is unfolding? To the signs that they Universe is giving us?
We would realize that it is all perfect anyway.
If you have a big decision to make in your life and you know it will rock the lives of those around you, I suggest you start small.
Start with recognizing that your needs are important (crucial). That your desires are there for a reason. That holding back from yourself also means you’re holding back from your loved. ones.
Start here …
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